The Sleeping Paralysis Attack

Have you been through it? Or better to ask have you heard this weird thing? Most of you would say ‘NO’ , some would just say YES and few would nod like insane. For many of you who don’t know about sleeping paralysis, I would depict you my real experience. Imagine one night you want to take peaceful sleep as you usually do. There comes a phase when you are half asleep and half awake. And suddenly when you want to change your posture you realize that you are not able to move. Yes it’s like someone has clinched your hands and legs so hard that if you move a piece of it, you could break your bones. Yes it’s that scary. The fear of having someone in your room on your bed in the dark brings hell of goosebumps. And when you try to scream loud to someone, you are not able to utter a single word. The constant urge of moving your hands and legs makes you scream louder. You try and try again to shout, scream your heart out but that invisible bizarre energy pulls you back.

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After constant trying and failing I realized there were tears in my eyes that continuously rolled down from the corner of my eyes. I felt I was breathing heavily, my heartbeat was fast and I was in complete sweat. When I opened my eyes , I was hallucinating…looking for that invisible thing that caged me and made me timid. I was scared enough to turn on the light and pick a glass of water. It took me ten minutes to realize what has happened to me. Even when I am writing this blog, the not at all good experience is haunting me.

I have experienced those for 2-3 times. But today also I’m not sure about what has happened to me. After few google searches and discussions with my friends I found that it was termed as Sleeping paralysis attack which rarely happens to people. Whatever it was, I would never want to experience it again. I also doubt if there was some supernatural presence in my room. I don’t know I’m not sure…

P.S-I'm writing this blog to know more about it from the people who have experienced it.

Not a good conversation with Autorickshaw Driver

Like any other week day, I was heading to my office in an auto.  But that morning was different and disappointing at the same time. The auto driver of my auto seemed little disturbed.  There was something shady about the auto driver which I somehow smelled. I think he was not happy with the routes which I suggested him to take due to peak timing traffic. For what he was blabbering something and giving me tough looks. For sometimes I resisted. Seeing no help I took out earphones from my bag and tried to avoid the situation. I saw he was still saying something. After 20 minutes or more I realized he was actually saying something to me. As soon as I removed my earphones, he started talking to me. He started sharing the reason of his grumpy mood. According to him, his wife was the reason for his bad mood. They had an argument over some household things the previous night which made him frenzy the next morning. At first I thought why is he discussing these things with me? As I was already getting late for my office and I had no interest in his talks I didn’t pay much attention to his married life quarrel stories till the time he said that he whacked his wife in the morning because she did not prepare tea for him

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.I was completely shattered hearing this statement. Further he added ‘madam in villages it is common scenario', everyone raise their hands on wives. We have grown up seeing this and I don’t have patience to see that she is not serving me tea in the morning. Listening all these I became impatient. Now I was more attentive and wanted to hear more of this. He was so cool about saying all these as if these are daily activities, you know like we eat food or drink water. I mean the guy who was merely 23 and his wife 21 as he said ,married for one year are up to this. He was so positive about what he was saying that he obviously can’t see any flaw in his action. He exclaimed that there is a huge difference in couples(married) of cities and villages. According to him couples in city stays with affection but the scenario in villages are completely different and people are used to it. Hearing all these it occurred to me that –did raising hands on his wife solved the problem? I asked him the same. He had no answer. It meant obviously not. My mind was fraught with questions for him at that time. But somehow I refrained. It does not made me stop thinking about the society we live in, where we have grown up seeing and believing that the man who earns money and who is physically powerful than woman has the right to overpower them by using their hands. 

This is another ugly face of domestic violence. The problem with this kind of violence is that women in our society has accepted that domestic violence is inseparable part of married life. Financial dependence of wives on their husbands has tied their hands not to defend them.They keep on suffering and eventually they get used to it. It is quite distressing that the situation is getting worse and will continue if we won’t speak up. It is important to change the way we think. It is the mindset that we have built that suppresses women and gives men the freedom not to think twice before doing ill-treatment.It is imperative to change that mindset that persist or else we will land nowhere.

Till that long auto ride I realised that you do not need to be literate to treat your spouse well. So, the issue doesn’t lie with you belonging from any city or village. Mistreatment or a better word 'domestic violence' does not solve any of the problems.

Now, let me be clear to you, I’m not a Misandrist, I just want to scream louder to make you listen that respect,not because she is woman but because she is human.