The "ALERT" Song of Life

This piece of writing is dedicated to all girls who will get married in coming 2-3 years ‘but don’t want to’. Before you would quote something in your mind. Let me be clear that I’m in the same shoes and that is what motivated me to pen down this. Well coming to the point, I personally feel belonging to the Indian Society where marriage means more than just a knot between a girl and a boy. As per my experience with my friends and family of same age or a bit a year younger or elder than me, the person who has to give up their career and ambition is a girl in most of the cases. I believe our society is not able to take in if a girl is more ambitious than a man. We are made to believe since childhood and that is the reason I have never seen in my 25 years that a married woman is earning more than her husband and so called society is accepting her. Well I would discuss this in my next blog.

It became important to write the “song of life” for me as an alert for those ambitious girls who want to achieve numerous things in life and have dreamt to fulfill their weirdest desire.  Girl, you are very lucky that you still have2-3 years as a bachelorette  and you can do as many things without excuse. But that’s only gonna happen if you’re serious about it.

Here are the few things I have applied in my life and somewhere deep within I don’t regret it.

First of all you have to be patient. Nothing comes at once. Patience about the things you want to do and you are looking forward to.

Stop spending all your money on shopping. This is one of the thing that girls can’t resist easily. I have experienced that shopping takes all your money. Every month when you salary is credited the first thing that comes in your mind is shopping. NO! don’t do that, instead save some money and spend it on the things that you have been thinking of doing for so long. Be it traveling, or pursuing your hobby or something else you wanna go for. Do that because the right time is now.

GOA trip is one of the talk that we all do and never execute it. If you are fond of traveling and have always wanted to drop in GOA with your friends. It’s the time to execute that without thinking.

Get uncomfortable a bit. We all know that life starts at the end of our comfortable zone. If it takes your weekend to do things you love, let it take. That is how you differentiate yourself from others.

You are not machine and your life is not only about office-sleep-repeat and you’re more than this.

Work smart and earn lots of money. The only person you should depend upon is yourself. Be financially independent. The joy of lavishness with your own earned money is exotic.

Stay fit! Fitness is very important for everyone. But at this age this should be one of your important and priortized goal. Be consistent with what you eat and workout well. Learn to control yourself when you see a junk. It is not important to eat ‘golgappe’everytime you see it. Make a schedule of eating healthy foods and cheat on weekends.

Carpe Diem my friend! Enjoy every bit of what you doing. Don’t think much about future. Thinking much about your future will mess your life and make your present complex.

Don’t be clingy to your boyfriend.

Boyfriends are very important part of your life. Don’t leave them and they deserve your time but that is not the only thing you are born for. It is very important to add different flavors to your life. Some are for friends, some are for boyfriend and many for your own self.

Be happy about who you are- find happiness within you and in your own company. No one is responsible for your happiness but you.

Stop thinking about-Log kya kahenge

Do things that makes you happy, people talk and forget. Don’t worry about them. After 5 years you will realize’I would have done that’.

So you! Live every moment of your life and fulfill all your small scattered desires before you miss the train. This alert “Song of Life”is just a reminder to explore who you are and what you have left since long. Give your life a kick and be the way you are because that’s what makes you "YOU"

The Sleeping Paralysis Attack

Have you been through it? Or better to ask have you heard this weird thing? Most of you would say ‘NO’ , some would just say YES and few would nod like insane. For many of you who don’t know about sleeping paralysis, I would depict you my real experience. Imagine one night you want to take peaceful sleep as you usually do. There comes a phase when you are half asleep and half awake. And suddenly when you want to change your posture you realize that you are not able to move. Yes it’s like someone has clinched your hands and legs so hard that if you move a piece of it, you could break your bones. Yes it’s that scary. The fear of having someone in your room on your bed in the dark brings hell of goosebumps. And when you try to scream loud to someone, you are not able to utter a single word. The constant urge of moving your hands and legs makes you scream louder. You try and try again to shout, scream your heart out but that invisible bizarre energy pulls you back.

Image taken from Google just for depiction

After constant trying and failing I realized there were tears in my eyes that continuously rolled down from the corner of my eyes. I felt I was breathing heavily, my heartbeat was fast and I was in complete sweat. When I opened my eyes , I was hallucinating…looking for that invisible thing that caged me and made me timid. I was scared enough to turn on the light and pick a glass of water. It took me ten minutes to realize what has happened to me. Even when I am writing this blog, the not at all good experience is haunting me.

I have experienced those for 2-3 times. But today also I’m not sure about what has happened to me. After few google searches and discussions with my friends I found that it was termed as Sleeping paralysis attack which rarely happens to people. Whatever it was, I would never want to experience it again. I also doubt if there was some supernatural presence in my room. I don’t know I’m not sure…

P.S-I'm writing this blog to know more about it from the people who have experienced it.

Turning 25!

Well I’m writing this blog in the most apt time. In two months I would be turning 25. Ohh my Gosh 25! Is it just a number or seriously you have to act mature ? Like you have just given your 12^th grade exams and eventually you are 25 now. It is seriously kind of 'LIKE IT HAPPENED YESTERDAY' of Ravinder Singh.

This phase of life comes with so many complications. You have just completed your studies a year back and your first job brings you with plenty of hopes and optimism. In short your life just took off. You want to earn-spend-shop-explore-travel and your parents are like ‘let me find a perfect guy for you’. DUH! I think most of the girls of my age are annoyed hearing this from their parents.

This is the final call for our life. Especially for we girls, we need to think what we actually want from our life. Doesn’t matter how much you hate marriages, some fine day you have to say 'yes' to your parents and you would be wrapped in an expensive attire ready to get double with sorrows and happiness of course (sarcasm)

So, no perfect time is gonna come to push you with the things you want.

There is a big difference between spending your own money and depending on your husband for finances. I think no one wants to be the second one(not at least me)

I think all our dreams and desires becomes less difficult to achieve as a bachelorette. Still it takes efforts to get started with it. You need to be stubborn for life. Stubborn for -your kind of life. Stubborn to fulfill all your bucket list. Stubborn for dealing with your parents of what you want to become. Make them count the crucial things you are looking for in the coming years which are more important than getting married. It needs courage and confidence to say and to work on it.

We all know that a self-made woman is more respected than a woman who flaunts her husband’s money. Many years from now when we look back and recall that I have been there,done that..trust me that pang of satisfaction would surely gonna bring immense happiness to the soul. I hope there would not be any disappointments and regrets then. It’s not only about money ,it’s about being in the space you want to be, be the person you think you can be and taking that first step towards it. It would be discomforting, but that’s what life is all about. It starts at the end of our comfort zone. So buck up girls! Let’s keep our heels and head always high. I don’t want to miss my last train, do you?  

P.S.—This piece I’m writing to motivate myself and to all girls of my age :)