The "ALERT" Song of Life

This piece of writing is dedicated to all girls who will get married in coming 2-3 years ‘but don’t want to’. Before you would quote something in your mind. Let me be clear that I’m in the same shoes and that is what motivated me to pen down this. Well coming to the point, I personally feel belonging to the Indian Society where marriage means more than just a knot between a girl and a boy. As per my experience with my friends and family of same age or a bit a year younger or elder than me, the person who has to give up their career and ambition is a girl in most of the cases. I believe our society is not able to take in if a girl is more ambitious than a man. We are made to believe since childhood and that is the reason I have never seen in my 25 years that a married woman is earning more than her husband and so called society is accepting her. Well I would discuss this in my next blog.

It became important to write the “song of life” for me as an alert for those ambitious girls who want to achieve numerous things in life and have dreamt to fulfill their weirdest desire.  Girl, you are very lucky that you still have2-3 years as a bachelorette  and you can do as many things without excuse. But that’s only gonna happen if you’re serious about it.

Here are the few things I have applied in my life and somewhere deep within I don’t regret it.

First of all you have to be patient. Nothing comes at once. Patience about the things you want to do and you are looking forward to.

Stop spending all your money on shopping. This is one of the thing that girls can’t resist easily. I have experienced that shopping takes all your money. Every month when you salary is credited the first thing that comes in your mind is shopping. NO! don’t do that, instead save some money and spend it on the things that you have been thinking of doing for so long. Be it traveling, or pursuing your hobby or something else you wanna go for. Do that because the right time is now.

GOA trip is one of the talk that we all do and never execute it. If you are fond of traveling and have always wanted to drop in GOA with your friends. It’s the time to execute that without thinking.

Get uncomfortable a bit. We all know that life starts at the end of our comfortable zone. If it takes your weekend to do things you love, let it take. That is how you differentiate yourself from others.

You are not machine and your life is not only about office-sleep-repeat and you’re more than this.

Work smart and earn lots of money. The only person you should depend upon is yourself. Be financially independent. The joy of lavishness with your own earned money is exotic.

Stay fit! Fitness is very important for everyone. But at this age this should be one of your important and priortized goal. Be consistent with what you eat and workout well. Learn to control yourself when you see a junk. It is not important to eat ‘golgappe’everytime you see it. Make a schedule of eating healthy foods and cheat on weekends.

Carpe Diem my friend! Enjoy every bit of what you doing. Don’t think much about future. Thinking much about your future will mess your life and make your present complex.

Don’t be clingy to your boyfriend.

Boyfriends are very important part of your life. Don’t leave them and they deserve your time but that is not the only thing you are born for. It is very important to add different flavors to your life. Some are for friends, some are for boyfriend and many for your own self.

Be happy about who you are- find happiness within you and in your own company. No one is responsible for your happiness but you.

Stop thinking about-Log kya kahenge

Do things that makes you happy, people talk and forget. Don’t worry about them. After 5 years you will realize’I would have done that’.

So you! Live every moment of your life and fulfill all your small scattered desires before you miss the train. This alert “Song of Life”is just a reminder to explore who you are and what you have left since long. Give your life a kick and be the way you are because that’s what makes you "YOU"

Girl You Definitely need a GIRLS TRIP

If you would ask me, I would definitely say that TRIPS and getaways should be everyone’s cup of tea. It refreshes you, energizes you and bring positivity in your mind. In this blog, I would not talk about the trips you should make or the places you should go. I just want to scream loud that how important it is to make an all girls trip. It brings the mix feeling of freedom, fun, joy, independency and what not. I have been taking many trips since long. But last trip was the only trip which I had a gang of my girlfriends. And trust me, I really had a different experience. The things that you do and experience in all girls trip are priceless. Let’s dig into why you should take a girls trip.

• Your swimsuit is not made to be kept in your wardrobe.

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Take out those long back purchased dresses that you bought just for this day. Don’t worry about how much your cleavage is visible. Your girls gang would not make you uncomfortable.

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•       Get stoned like never before.

     With your girls you don’t need to count your pegs and not need to worry about someone judging you or taking advantage. Instead be a free soul.

• .       Take numerous pictures and nobody gonna stop you.

Trips are the perfect time when you think of taking pictures. Take as many pictures you want and insta it right now.

   

•     Make memories while you can.

Like I believe in the fact that don’t listen to what they say, go see yourself. It is important to do what you want and do when you are young and capable.

•        Life is not all about work so do all that you want. 

Girls trips are the best way to rediscover your mind. It is really important to take breaks when life gets monotonous. If you are working like I do, you can trust me on the fact that girls trips are the best way to rejuvenate your mind and you are again pumped up.

•       That girls talk at your favorite destination should never be missed out.

I bet you never gonna forget all the conversation you will have with your girly gang. Imagine what a time you will have surrounded by mountains, river or beach ;)

• .       Time to grow the BFFs bond stronger.

Girls trip are the best time to grow your bond stronger with your BFF.

 

• .       Boy-talks

Gossips! Oops boy- gossips, doesn’t matter if you are in 20s,30s or 50s. Boy talks are always on the list and is all fun when you have your best girl gang.  Rest what you discuss is all you know ;)

There are lot more things to do, that you will only know once you pack your bags.

Now what are thinking about?

Whatsapp you girlie gang and plan out something!
GOOD LUCK;)

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For the Nature-holic

To begin with I would say everyone loves their city and so do I.  And why wouldn’t I? I am born there, spent more than 20 years. You automatically start loving the place where you have created whopping memories no matter what. So without any further delay I would like you to introduce this city ‘Ranchi’. Now if you want to experience the hustle of city, you’re welcome and  if you want to embrace scenic beauty ,waterfalls and greenery you’re welcome again. In short I would say Ranchi would serve you with perfect blend of what you need to refresh your body and soul.Trust me it has lot to serve you. Now one question that is inevitable for everyone to ask – Then why we don’t have it in the mainstream map of Indian waterfalls and natural beauty? And why it has not attracted much tourism? Even I am looking for the answer. Unfortunately it has not been paid much attention to attract tourism. But for a nature lover I would recommend you to add it in your bucket list right now.

The charm of WATERFALLS

Ranchi is blessed with five major waterfalls that will make you go speechless. If I’m talking too much about these natural beauties then let’s dig into the unexplored:

Dassam Fall: The wonderful natural cascade falls from the height of 144ft making a splash down. 

The view is marvellous. It is located about 40km away from Ranchi in Taimara village. The name ‘Dassam’ indicates total 10 small and big streams including the main waterfall. The main attraction is the gorgeous landscape surrounding the waterfall.

Hundru Waterfall: Hundru is another splendid sight you would be capturing. It is around 28km away from Ranchi. 

Here you can take bath as it is less risky than Dassam and top idea for picnic spot. Wow! The idea of picnic at waterfall is something any nature lover would think.

Jonha Waterfall: This waterfall is also known as Gautam Dhara. It has historical significance and is believed that  Lord Buddha bathed here. 

 

This marvellous waterfall is located on the same way towards Hundru and a diversion separates these two falls.

Panch Ghagh:  The name itself suggests  that it’s a collection of impeccable five waterfalls. It is located approx. 55kms away from Ranchi. 

It is also a suggested spot for picnic and gathers huge crowd especially from 25^th Dec to 1^st week of January. You can come for a refreshing day out with your friends.

Hirni Fall: The immortal Ramgarh river flows through deep dense forest and takes the form of Hirni waterfall. In the dense forest, according to the localites there are caves which are home to tigers and bears. Hirni fall is 75kms from Ranchi and 22kms further from Panch Ghagh.

These are the five major and renowned waterfalls in Ranchi which you need to see right now. There are others like Sita and Lodh waterfalls which are not to be missed if you are here.

Now you already know that watching once is worth than hearing it for thousand times;)

*All the images are taken from Google.

A note from an Anti- Narcissist to the Narcissist

Dear Narcissist people,

We are human being, normal being like you, (oops! mistaken) you don’t consider that so, we all are different by name and character, We all come from different background. We pursue variant education  The curiosity is that what makes you sing again and again about yourself. I mean it’s a good thing if you’re disclosing and sharing about yourself. But a human psyche doesn’t feel compatible after a particular duration of time if only thing you do is puke about yourself. I used the word 'puke' to describe its quantity and hence no offense intended. Come on, nobody wants to hear about the brands you got last weekend or, how many people desperately wants to take you on a  date.

Folks! In case you are confused about what a narcissist look like,

Here is what I have gathered about them with my experience ;)

Image taken from Google

• §  Any narcissist will always try to suppress you by their words or action. They cannot see you being better than them. They somehow trick a way to put you down.

• §  They never encourage you  to do something you want to. They may discourage you or stay dumb when any opportunity knocks you.

• §  If  you have observed, a narcissist is always surrounded by rich and good looking people.  They never want to befriend with someone who does not have enough money or looks.

• § I personally get negative vibes with a narcissist. As per my experience, I have also felt demotivated when I’m with them.

• §   A narcissist can never see you succeeding in life or doing better than them. They are the king/queen of jealousy.

• §  And trust me they ‘re the biggest liars. They are clever with their words. You’ll never know when they are lying. In short, you can never trust them and they will surely gonna ditch you someday.

Sometimes I feel how these people manage to brag about themselves all the time. I wonder why they cannot feel that the fellow in front of you is not at all interested in knowing about your long lists of appreciation.

Dear narcissist please understand that there are people who are far bold and beautiful than you both mentally and physically and they never utter nonsense. So please stop being super obsessed with yourself. Take a look out of you  and you will see there are much more you need to know… 

P.S.- Based on personal experience

Your well wisher,

Anti-Narcissist

  

The Sleeping Paralysis Attack

Have you been through it? Or better to ask have you heard this weird thing? Most of you would say ‘NO’ , some would just say YES and few would nod like insane. For many of you who don’t know about sleeping paralysis, I would depict you my real experience. Imagine one night you want to take peaceful sleep as you usually do. There comes a phase when you are half asleep and half awake. And suddenly when you want to change your posture you realize that you are not able to move. Yes it’s like someone has clinched your hands and legs so hard that if you move a piece of it, you could break your bones. Yes it’s that scary. The fear of having someone in your room on your bed in the dark brings hell of goosebumps. And when you try to scream loud to someone, you are not able to utter a single word. The constant urge of moving your hands and legs makes you scream louder. You try and try again to shout, scream your heart out but that invisible bizarre energy pulls you back.

Image taken from Google just for depiction

After constant trying and failing I realized there were tears in my eyes that continuously rolled down from the corner of my eyes. I felt I was breathing heavily, my heartbeat was fast and I was in complete sweat. When I opened my eyes , I was hallucinating…looking for that invisible thing that caged me and made me timid. I was scared enough to turn on the light and pick a glass of water. It took me ten minutes to realize what has happened to me. Even when I am writing this blog, the not at all good experience is haunting me.

I have experienced those for 2-3 times. But today also I’m not sure about what has happened to me. After few google searches and discussions with my friends I found that it was termed as Sleeping paralysis attack which rarely happens to people. Whatever it was, I would never want to experience it again. I also doubt if there was some supernatural presence in my room. I don’t know I’m not sure…

P.S-I'm writing this blog to know more about it from the people who have experienced it.

Not a good conversation with Autorickshaw Driver

Like any other week day, I was heading to my office in an auto.  But that morning was different and disappointing at the same time. The auto driver of my auto seemed little disturbed.  There was something shady about the auto driver which I somehow smelled. I think he was not happy with the routes which I suggested him to take due to peak timing traffic. For what he was blabbering something and giving me tough looks. For sometimes I resisted. Seeing no help I took out earphones from my bag and tried to avoid the situation. I saw he was still saying something. After 20 minutes or more I realized he was actually saying something to me. As soon as I removed my earphones, he started talking to me. He started sharing the reason of his grumpy mood. According to him, his wife was the reason for his bad mood. They had an argument over some household things the previous night which made him frenzy the next morning. At first I thought why is he discussing these things with me? As I was already getting late for my office and I had no interest in his talks I didn’t pay much attention to his married life quarrel stories till the time he said that he whacked his wife in the morning because she did not prepare tea for him

Image: taken from Google just for depiction

.I was completely shattered hearing this statement. Further he added ‘madam in villages it is common scenario', everyone raise their hands on wives. We have grown up seeing this and I don’t have patience to see that she is not serving me tea in the morning. Listening all these I became impatient. Now I was more attentive and wanted to hear more of this. He was so cool about saying all these as if these are daily activities, you know like we eat food or drink water. I mean the guy who was merely 23 and his wife 21 as he said ,married for one year are up to this. He was so positive about what he was saying that he obviously can’t see any flaw in his action. He exclaimed that there is a huge difference in couples(married) of cities and villages. According to him couples in city stays with affection but the scenario in villages are completely different and people are used to it. Hearing all these it occurred to me that –did raising hands on his wife solved the problem? I asked him the same. He had no answer. It meant obviously not. My mind was fraught with questions for him at that time. But somehow I refrained. It does not made me stop thinking about the society we live in, where we have grown up seeing and believing that the man who earns money and who is physically powerful than woman has the right to overpower them by using their hands. 

This is another ugly face of domestic violence. The problem with this kind of violence is that women in our society has accepted that domestic violence is inseparable part of married life. Financial dependence of wives on their husbands has tied their hands not to defend them.They keep on suffering and eventually they get used to it. It is quite distressing that the situation is getting worse and will continue if we won’t speak up. It is important to change the way we think. It is the mindset that we have built that suppresses women and gives men the freedom not to think twice before doing ill-treatment.It is imperative to change that mindset that persist or else we will land nowhere.

Till that long auto ride I realised that you do not need to be literate to treat your spouse well. So, the issue doesn’t lie with you belonging from any city or village. Mistreatment or a better word 'domestic violence' does not solve any of the problems.

Now, let me be clear to you, I’m not a Misandrist, I just want to scream louder to make you listen that respect,not because she is woman but because she is human.